Countdown to Christmas

The countdown to Christmas has begun, along with all of the characteristic craziness that is often synonymous with this time of year. Trying to get the “right” present for loved ones and friends without destroying the budget is daunting. The tendency to equate love with how much is spent on gifts is a trap many … Continue reading

Thanksgiving: A New Beginning

The dishes have all been cleared, the last of the food put away. As I reflect on the day’s events I realized that this Thanksgiving was a Thanksgiving like no other. I grew up pretty much in a silo, as we were a small family with not too many aunts, uncles, and cousins, at least … Continue reading

The Road to Healing

It’s not politically correct to talk about race, religion or ethnicity especially in a mixed setting. Immediately you can sense the nervous tapping of pens, the inability to complete sentences and the shifting of feet from one to another. Many of my white friends, many of whom I’ve known most of my life, would respond … Continue reading

Trump This!

I woke up on November 9th exhausted. As a woman, person of color and strong believer of a diverse and inclusionary America I was frightened. As much as I tried, I could not separate my conscious mind from the past 16 months of divisiveness, hate mongering, poised, unhinged, presidential, non-presidential, fact checking, who do you … Continue reading

The RV and Me: My Journey to Acceptance

My husband has always envisioned himself as an outdoorsman. His dream vacation consists of a trek to the mountains, encompassing New York State land, hiking trails, a river or a stream, and a starlit night. A tent, a lean-to or better yet an RV would be his ideal accommodation. Many moons ago, before we were … Continue reading

Billy Bush, You’re Fired???

Let me be the first to say, unequivocally, that I am not a Donald Trump supporter, for reasons all too numerous to recount. That being said, I find myself in the most unusual position of expressing compassion and, yes, some understanding of the behavior displayed by Billy Bush. Although Billy Bush’s conduct is culpable, I … Continue reading

The BI Girls Together Again!

As my plane circled JFK airport, my feel good endorphins could not be contained. This feeling evoked by spending 6 days with women I’ve known for over 48 years was beyond words. Describing them as friends is an understatement. The word friend, although in certain respects is an apt description, falls increasingly short in describing … Continue reading

Train to Yesterday

Taking the LIRR into Penn Station is a normal every day occurrence for tens of thousands of Long Islanders. As a matter of fact, it is safe to say that many suburban and urban commuters utilize mass transit as their primary mode of transportation……And then….there was me! My niece and I have long embarked on … Continue reading

Another Long Island Staycation: Oheka Castle

My friends and family will tell you that I am an avid Groupon user. Groupon opens up a world of opportunities, restaurants, products and adventures at a significantly discounted price; many of which, in the course of my normal life, I would never take advantage of. I’m a big proponent of staycations, which are mini retreats that involve minimal … Continue reading

Life is a Choice

As we approach the wedding season, it dawned on me that whom you marry determines a plethora of things that someone in love or lust may overlook. When I was in my late twenties, it occurred to me or as Oprah would say “I had an AHA” moment that this thing called marriage was a … Continue reading